Best Man Wedding Speech and Toast – Some Secret Strategies For an Impressive Delivery

Well, you’ve finally finished writing the best man speech for your friend or brother’s wedding. It turned out to take a lot longer than you thought it would, but you are very happy with the finished product. It is heartfelt and sincere, with a good injection of humour and mild character assassination of the groom to make it genuinely funny. Now, who can you hire to stand up in front of all those people and read it out for you? Just kidding!

Seriously though, after all the hard work that has gone into it, you obviously want to be able to deliver it with pride. The good news is that there are a few techniques that will help you appear relaxed and at ease. (Even if you do have a hidden case of stage-fright.)

My first piece of advice is one that most people don’t want to hear. However, it is to avoid alcohol completely before your speech. Make the toast your first drink. Honestly, ‘dutch courage’ is much overrated. Having your wits about you and being fully focussed is the only way to go, not only during your speech, but also afterwards when all those guests are going to be complimenting you on your amazing tribute.

When it is time to give your speech the easiest way to quieten the room and get attention is to tap a fork on a glass. Don’t get stressed or impatient if some guests just have to finish whatever they were saying to their neighbour! It just means folks are enjoying themselves. Some guys prefer to remain seated until the room is quiet and then stand up to address the guests.

When standing make sure your weight is equally spread between both legs. It will give you a good upright posture, and also helps to sharpen your thinking. Before you start to speak look slowly around the room, engaging as many of the guests eyes as you can. Be sure to do this with a smile, and you will immediately appear confident and at ease.

Starting your speech with a one-liner that gets a laugh is a strategy that a lot of people find gets them over their nerves quickly. Many best men have reported that after they had produced that first laugh, it was suddenly a breeze.

Speak fairly slowly and clearly, with pauses for laughter and also to look at cue cards. During the pauses be sure to make eye contact with the guests again. Taking your time gives the impression that you are very comfortable talking with them all. Rushing through your delivery just looks as though you are trying to get the ordeal over with as quickly as possible.

If you find it difficult to stand still without fidgeting you don’t have to stay in the one spot. Walking around the room while giving your speech can be a great way to engage the guests and make them feel a part of it. If you decide to wander it’s not particularly important to time things so that you are back at the bridal table by the end of your speech. It can actually be very effective to toast the bride and groom from the opposite side of the room. You are then directly facing them when presenting the toast, and your sincerity and good wishes will be seen clearly on your face.